Comments on: No really, I’m gay. http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/2008/05/31/no-really-im-gay/ Grappling with the world from a queer feminist perspective since 2008 Thu, 22 Oct 2009 01:45:35 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: alesbianandascholar http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/2008/05/31/no-really-im-gay/#comment-113 alesbianandascholar Sat, 21 Jun 2008 20:59:59 +0000 http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/?p=22#comment-113 Indiegirl- Thanks! Sasha- You're very welcome :-) Lis- That's an excellent way of putting it, but yeah, I think justifying sexuality is a stupid thing to require of people. Can't we all just get along? Meg- Thank you for stopping by! Indiegirl- Thanks!

Sasha- You’re very welcome :-)

Lis- That’s an excellent way of putting it, but yeah, I think justifying sexuality is a stupid thing to require of people. Can’t we all just get along?

Meg- Thank you for stopping by!

]]> By: Past Relationships…Current Identity « randomess http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/2008/05/31/no-really-im-gay/#comment-86 Past Relationships…Current Identity « randomess Mon, 02 Jun 2008 18:15:52 +0000 http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/?p=22#comment-86 [...] queer, relationships, transgendered } I was tagsurfing last night and came across this post:  No, I’m Really Gay.  There’s a link in that post to another blog you should check out on a similar topic.  I [...] [...] queer, relationships, transgendered } I was tagsurfing last night and came across this post:  No, I’m Really Gay.  There’s a link in that post to another blog you should check out on a similar topic.  I [...]

]]> By: meg http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/2008/05/31/no-really-im-gay/#comment-80 meg Mon, 02 Jun 2008 03:50:52 +0000 http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/?p=22#comment-80 I just wanted to say I stumbled across your blog tonight (and I'm on my way to check out the link you posted) and I really enjoyed this post...I'll be reading more. I could relate to the "boy crazyness" and dating "pretty guys" prior to coming out. Thanks for sharing this! I just wanted to say I stumbled across your blog tonight (and I’m on my way to check out the link you posted) and I really enjoyed this post…I’ll be reading more. I could relate to the “boy crazyness” and dating “pretty guys” prior to coming out. Thanks for sharing this!

]]> By: lis http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/2008/05/31/no-really-im-gay/#comment-67 lis Sat, 31 May 2008 13:26:35 +0000 http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/?p=22#comment-67 I'm going to go check out that blog in a minute.. :) I find it ridiculous that people feel the need to justify their sexual experience vs. their preference. If anything, I think that having a relationship with a man VERIFIES that you are a lesbian: you tried it, you realised you didn't like it, and so you aren't going to do it again. From a purely argumentative viewpoint I would think that a lesbian who has never had any relations with a man would be easier to argue the "Well, are you REALLY?" with. (Though for the record, I don't believe ANYBODY has to justify their sexual preferences. Boys, girls, genderqueers, there's losta choices and who said you had to pick just one?) I'm going to admit that I've been thinking about the same subject lately. And labels, I guess. Though it's nothing I really want to write about in a public forum, I'd love to discuss it with you sometime for some insight. I’m going to go check out that blog in a minute.. :)

I find it ridiculous that people feel the need to justify their sexual experience vs. their preference. If anything, I think that having a relationship with a man VERIFIES that you are a lesbian: you tried it, you realised you didn’t like it, and so you aren’t going to do it again. From a purely argumentative viewpoint I would think that a lesbian who has never had any relations with a man would be easier to argue the “Well, are you REALLY?” with. (Though for the record, I don’t believe ANYBODY has to justify their sexual preferences. Boys, girls, genderqueers, there’s losta choices and who said you had to pick just one?)

I’m going to admit that I’ve been thinking about the same subject lately. And labels, I guess. Though it’s nothing I really want to write about in a public forum, I’d love to discuss it with you sometime for some insight.

]]> By: Sasha http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/2008/05/31/no-really-im-gay/#comment-65 Sasha Sat, 31 May 2008 04:19:50 +0000 http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/?p=22#comment-65 Well thank you for calling me your new favorite dykeblogger! What an honor!!!! But back to you, my dear: I loved this post. Of course you already know I feel very similar to you on many points. Bravo, my fellow blogger :) Well thank you for calling me your new favorite dykeblogger! What an honor!!!! But back to you, my dear: I loved this post. Of course you already know I feel very similar to you on many points. Bravo, my fellow blogger :)

]]> By: indiegirl65 http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/2008/05/31/no-really-im-gay/#comment-64 indiegirl65 Sat, 31 May 2008 03:52:46 +0000 http://alesbianandascholar.wordpress.com/?p=22#comment-64 Nicely put. Nicely put.

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